also please fuck off if you defend incest, like stop reading fanfiction and realize that overwhelmingly - its estimated that up to 20% of women have survived sexual assault from older male relatives and sibling incest among children is most often in the form of an older sibling coercing their younger sibling.
I always hear white feminists talk about the pressure to be nice and kind all the time. But what I struggle with is when they think they’re being intersectional by positing this as a white women’s phenomenon because “women of color” (they’re more often than not thinking of black women) are expected to be assertive and “bitchy” because of racism.
The reality is that I’m NOT (contrary to white feminists’ popular beliefs) expected to be assertive or independent thinking. Tropes of the “ride or die” or “wifey” say differently. In fact, I am more harshly punished if I do espouse those traits because black women (and other WOC) are supposed to be the most subservient of all women.
The idea that I’m not encouraged to be subservient to men comes from the matriarchy myth, which of course is fundamentally racist. It’s interesting that white women are talking about how they’re encouraged to be silent. Meanwhile, black women’s equality (black feminism) is largely viewed as being the #1 destroyer of the black community, on par with racism. If that’s not encouragement to be a secondary citizen within one’s community, I don’t know what is.
Images of black women being aggressive and outspoken are projected onto black women in order to justify the white patriarchal order (from which white women benefit).
White women are not encouraged to be “nice” or mute their thoughts to women of color, or even men of color. So if any honest conversation is going to happen about white women being pressured to be nice then it needs to be clarified that this is in relation to white men.
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One of the students allegedly asked professor Shannon Gibney, “Why do we have to talk about this?”
What a load of shit